If we choose to grow our emotional self, our resilience will grow to meet the challenges in our life.

Written by: Bob Brotchie, Psychotherapist (East Anglia, UK)

Do you take care of your emotional well-being? Exactly what does this even mean?

If you fail to take care of your emotional well-being, it is easy to exist in a routine zombie-like state, wanting for ‘something’ (unsure of what it even may be) and failing to find consistent focus – ending each day stressed and resentful, sleeping poorly before burning straight through the next day.

If we choose to grow our emotional self however, our resilience will also grow for the challenges we all must face. We will improve our performance in life and can be open to creativity, innovation, and opportunity… all with less effort! Wanting diminishes and – paradoxically – that which you welcome into your life appears to come to you much more easily.

You pull less and get more!!

How many times have you achieved an objective, a perceived success, only to move straight on to the next target?

Can your performance and success afford to be hampered by the incessant thoughts of the past, and worries of the future? It’s all too easy to completely consumed by the barrage of things to attend to on the road to our success, because you can – you will!

We are however human beings, rather than human doings - and in always ‘doing’ we often neglect our ability to be kind to ourselves. This is when the resilience can be eroded, stage by stage until ‘pop’!

There is little obvious warning when we are about to reach the end of our emotional tether, Others will be noticing changes in behaviour, persistent irritability, intolerance, failing to look – really look – into the eyes of our partners and children.

Here is what we must all understand in our life’s journey…

With clarity of mind and relaxed, appropriate thinking, this more-sensory and present way can become the new norm. You can achieve more by working your mind less!

Looking after your emotional well-being is truly about success, rather than the way emotional health welfare is often regarded – namely as a perceived failure. It is necessary to understand that whilst your physical well-being is relatively easy to see (gaining the pounds, being out of breath, etc.), your emotional well-being will determine how you manage your physical health, management and perceptions in the years to come. 

By growing your self-compassion and taking care of the here and now, you remove much of the unnecessary noise of life as you move that much closer to success!!   

August 6, 2012

Bob Brotchie is a psychotherapist and founder of Anglia Counseling Ltd. He is in private practice in East Anglia, UK. In addition to his clinical and coaching responsibilities, Bob is a director and founder of I.C.E. – In Case of Emergency Campaign.

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